How to Survive in a Long Distance Relationship?
Distance never ruins a relationship. - J.E. Mara
I can’t claim to have mastered the secret to living in a
long-distance relationship, because there is no secret. It’s just work.
We intend to do everything for it to work.
As a student you study to learn, as a company employee you train to advance,
and as a significant other in a long-distance relationship you
communicate, you focus, you persevere to stay in love.That's how things go around. Maybe the way of spicing things up to make everything grow and ponder could be the most effective mean in achieving things such as Long Distance Relationship.
For those in or considering getting into a long-distance relationship & even those who are now into it, here's some of my personal advice:
1.) Communication is a Must. It should be everyday.
A common fear when it comes to long-distance relationships is the
fear of growing apart – of acquiring a whole new set of life experiences
that exclude your significant other. This fear is real. People adapt.
They move on. The passing of time ensures this inevitability. The trick
is to communicate as much as possible, whether for seconds or hours at a
time – via text, via phone calls, via Skype, via any of the
numerous communication mediums that exist today – and to talk about
everything, from events as significant as a promotion or raise at work,
to the mundane, like deciding between apple varieties at the grocery
store or seeing a new hairdresser.
Distance inherently excludes you from each others lives. Communication bridges the gap.
2.) Be Reasonable.
You deserve a life. Your significant
other does too. You both deserve friends and work happy hours and
raucous nights out and spontaneous daytime excursions and fun and
laughter and more. People tend to do funny things when they’re lonely –
they get jealous of experiences that don’t involve them, and resentful
of memories that don’t include them. Don’t be that person. Go out and
make your own memories. They’ll become great conversation fodder when
you’re digging for new things to talk about.
On that note, sometimes, when you’re in a long-distance relationship,
you’re lonely and you probably haven’t had sex in a while and a cute
stranger will brush past and make eye contact with you at a bar and
you’ll interpret that as an invitation to make out and, basically,
sometimes shit happens. Not for everyone, but consider a safety clause. Sometimes,
and no couple is exempt from this, long-distance or not, you’re
attracted to other people. It happens. There are millions of beautiful,
interesting people in the world, and sometimes, by chance, one of these
people will be in a room with you while your significant other is not.
3.) Always Reminder: Being attracted to another person doesn't make you a bad person.
However, acting on this attraction, without the express, explicit approval of your significant other, can make you an asshole. If you think you can handle it, talk about this type of situation in advance and lay out specific ground rules.
4.) Plan things together.
Planning things to do with the one you love is exciting, but the best feeling is making all of them come true together.
5.) Be Honest. In Love.
Being in love makes being in a long-distance relationship easy. If
your love is effortless, if it branches and grows like ivy across a
brownstone, reaching and settling into every nook and crevice, being in a
long-distance relationship will be a breeze.
So be honest with yourself and your significant other. Be in love.
And if you’re not in love, then end it. This is how you survive a
long-distance relationship.
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